49: How to Start Reparenting Yourself
- Gemma Gladstone
- May 18, 2022
Gemma Gladstone speaks on how to start reparenting yourself
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In schema therapy, the therapist sometimes engages with the client in different ways through limited re-parenting as part of the therapeutic relationship.
Today, we will be talking about how we can re-parent ourselves. Re-parenting is something almost everyone can do because we all have the necessary emotional resources within us.
If you take the time to tune in, you can easily tap into your inner emotional resources and help yourself through re-parenting. In this episode, we dive into what reparenting means, how you can do your own re-parenting, and what you need to consider when thinking about re-parenting yourself.
If you are dealing with mental health issues or recovering from core schemas around abandonment, emotional deprivation, mistrust abuse, defectiveness, or any other schema set up early in life, you will gain a lot from this show. Stay tuned for more!
- It is important to understand that our personalities are not made of just one single unit. We all have many parts of ourselves.
- In schema therapy, we sometimes refer to the vulnerable child mode. It is similar to the inner child and is the part of the self that holds all the emotional pain from childhood.
- Gemma talks about reactions to triggers that could activate the vulnerable child mode and evoke an exaggerated emotional response.
- We need a framework within which to talk about re-parenting and consider what we can do to help the parts of ourselves that are struggling.
- First, we need to become aware that parts of ourselves are cut off and struggling.
- Gemma explains what happens to us when we are young and bad things happen.
- How and why dissociation works as a survival mechanism.
- Gemma explains the concept of moral defense.
- Re-parenting ourselves is all about rediscovering, connecting with, and reclaiming the lost parts of ourselves.
- Some barriers to connecting with the wounded parts of the self.
- Some starter points to re-parenting yourself.
- Start noticing your triggered feelings.
- Part of re-parenting is learning to soothe yourself in healthy and appropriate ways.