53: Dating Fatigue: What You Need To Do To Feel Hopeful Again!
- Gemma Gladstone
- June 23, 2022
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This episode is in the realm of dating. It will appeal to women experiencing hopelessness after having implemented changes in the men they are dating, and then men they should avoid start to slip in under their radar.
Initially, you may think the guy is different. But after the first few weeks of dating, the cracks start showing. You may notice that he is critical or does not prioritize the relationship much. Or you may feel uncertain about where you stand with him. Then the insecurity starts coming up.
It can be exhausting if you meet someone who seems nice, and you become hopeful because you have made changes and are doing everything right, but then you start seeing the red flags.
In this episode, Justine and Gemma go back to the basics. They dive into how to avoid a sense of hopelessness and become hopeful about dating again. They discuss common myths that can keep women in unhealthy relationships and share tips for avoiding disinterested or emotionally unavailable men in the early days of online dating.
This episode is for you if you are dating or getting back into dating, you have an insecure attachment style leaning toward anxiety, and you tend to hang in there with guys who are controlling, self-absorbed, or emotionally unavailable. Change is possible and can break the pattern, but it can be tricky at certain spots, and you may need some help!
Stay tuned for more!
- Myths that can make women stay in unhealthy relationships.
- A relationship with someone nice can be surprisingly easy if you have a disastrous dating history.
- Dating can be hell for women with an anxious attachment style and an abandonment schema. Gemma discusses some beliefs that would have to be challenged to get a different outcome.
- Some tips to avoid disinterested or emotionally unavailable men in the early stages of online dating.
- Online dating can sometimes be a medium for people who have difficulties with connection, intimacy, and being vulnerable with someone.
- Watch out for guys who focus on your physical appearance or get into sexual talk in their early texts.
- There is a difference between emotionally unavailable people and those who are actually unavailable.
- When there are clear markers of unavailability early on, that means he is NOT available.
- Challenge any ideas about a particular type of person you think will be right for you.
- In the early days, date people you would not typically go for if they seem average and look pleasant enough.
- You do not have to have the same hobbies and interests as someone to have an emotionally compatible relationship with them.
- Experiment with getting to know different types of people.
If you have a pattern of getting involved and staying with emotionally unavailable or avoidant people, you may need extra help and emotional support to implement changes. Check out our THE RED FLAG PROJECT course.