61: How Can I Change My Unrelenting Standards Schema?
- Gemma Gladstone
- August 25, 2022
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Justine tends to overcommit to things. After agreeing to do something, she often regrets it and lands up with a schema hangover because there are big consequences to changing her mind and saying no, and getting out of what she has committed to do can sometimes create a big drama.
Since the last episode, she has been reflecting on how much an unrelenting standards schema contributes to people’s stress and sense of being rushed. She was wondering if unrelenting standards might be playing a role in her recent feelings of stress and sense of being rushed because it’s a sneaky schema that could pop up anywhere.
In this episode, Gemma and Justine dive into what it takes to change or modify an unrelenting standards schema. They discuss various criteria that might indicate that your schema is playing out and offer advice on what you can do to overcome perfectionism, retrain your brain, and start doing things differently. Stay tuned for more!
Show highlights:
- Justine gives an example of where she tends to overcommit to things and explains why she thinks it was unrelenting standards and not her self-sacrifice schema playing out.
- Changing a schema requires constant observation, reflection, and problem-solving.
- Gemma recaps what goes on and how it feels when you have an unrelenting standards schema.
- Some criteria for where to start with consciously changing or modifying a schema.
- Procrastination could indicate that your schema is playing out.
- How avoidance ties into concerns about not being good enough.
- You need to know what triggers your schema.
- It is best to focus on one thing at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
- You can use the shame, anxiety, or embarrassment you feel in certain situations to your advantage to overcome your schema.
- How to retrain your brain and coach yourself through changing the way you do things.
- You can train your mind to overcome perfectionism.
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