Gemma Gladstone

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

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In schema therapy, ‘over-compensation’ is one of 3 coping behavioural styles. When a schema is triggered, we have the urge to respond – to avoid, to surrender to the meaning of the schema, or to over-compensate or fight against the meaning of the schema. In this episode Gemma discusses and breaks down the over-compensation response.

Parenting Teenagers
You’ll love this episode if you’re looking for tips and clues for parenting your teen or tween. In this episode we discuss a question asked by a member of our Schema Circle. The questions asks how to manage and deal with teenagers when they are being “disrespectful” difficult and or angry and you are in the firing line! How can we be the “Lighthouse” for our teens and give them the love , support and inclusion that they need while also having limits an boundaries.

Dear Therapist, Carer or anyone witnessing the emotional pain & suffering of a client or another person such as friend or family member who you are supporting through a difficult time.

You are invited to take a breath, to stop and to notice how you are feeling right now. Settle in and spend 20 minutes doing this compassion-based exercise with Dr Gemma Gladstone as she guides you through a journey of loving-kindness towards both yourself and the person you are choosing to focus on.

This meditation can be done at any time of the day, but you might find it particularly beneficial at the end of the day or before you go to sleep at night.

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In today’s episode Gemma and Justine answer a question from one of their Schema Circle members. The question asks how can we know if our reaction to a break-up is fuelled by an abandonment schema or not? Before getting into this question, Gemma provides a review of the abandonment schema, it’s origin and how it tends to play out in romantic relationships. The 3 ways this schema plays out in romantic relationships are (1) – an avoidance pattern; (2) – a surrendering pattern and (3) – an over-compensating pattern. Gemma gives examples and explains each of these patterns.

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Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

We are re-launching our new membership program!! Are you ready to go to the next level in your self-development using the clarity, wisdom and insights from Schema Therapy? We’d love to have you join us. Go to this link to get on the waitlist now for our Schema Circle membership
https://www.theredflagproject.com/schema-circle

Click here to Have a look at ALL our resources and products here, including the FREE GUIDE

Click here to Have a look at ALL our resources and products here

THE RED FLAG PROJECT – ECOURSE FOR WOMEN
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In today’s episode, we discuss the emotional deprivation schema and how to start to heal this schema from the inside out. This is probably the most common schema – about 50% of people have this schema. It’s the one that can be the hardest to recognise because we are often not aware of what we didn’t get. Stay tuned to hear us discuss how we start to work with this schema and what you can do in a practical way to start the healing process yourself.

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!
NEW! Schema Circle Membership
We are launching our new membership program!! Are you ready to go to the next level in your self-development using the clarity, wisdom and insights from Schema Therapy? We’d love to have you join us.

Have a look at ALL our resources and products here
THE RED FLAG PROJECT – ECOURSE FOR WOMEN
https://theredflagproject.com/
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https://www.instagram.com/theredflagproject._/
SCHEMA THERAPY FOR LIFE
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Contact us by email- justineandgemma@goodmood.com.au
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Talking to a Narcissist? Avoid These 6 Common Pitfalls
Very often, if you were raised by a narcissist, in adulthood you will more or less fall into the trap of seeking the approval of people who are narcissistic.

A narcissist’s acceptance of you is often conditional – as long as you are the version of you they want to see, then they treat you well, or at least in an acceptable way.

In this episode Gemma discusses 6 relational or communications pitfalls to avoid when communicating with the difficult narcissist in your life.

These are people who are really difficult to deal with or communicate with, who might gaslight you or try to manipulate you, who might be highly defensive, super sensitive to criticism, self-absorbed/self-centred; have angry outbursts; tantrums; and tend to be blaming of others and sometimes can be – condensending; patronizing and belittling.

Avoid these mistakes:

1. Getting upset and highly emotional (instead stay calm)

2. Trying to get them to understand your perspective (this is a limitation & block for them…accept they will most likely never get it)

3. Expressing how you feel about something (eg, I find those comments very hurtful) . Unfortunately, these types of self-disclosures often irritate the narcissist and they may flip into further over-compensating behaviours

4. Asking permission for something in a self-subjugating way

5. Staying in the firing line.

6. Trying to get their approval / waiting for their approval / waiting for the praise that never comes.

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!
NEW! Go to this link to get on the waitlist now – Schema Circle Membership

We are launching our new membership program!! Are you ready to go to the next level in your self-development using the clarity, wisdom and insights from Schema Therapy? We’d love to have you join us.
https://www.theredflagproject.com/schema-circle

Have a look at ALL our resources and products here
THE RED FLAG PROJECT – ECOURSE FOR WOMEN
https://theredflagproject.com/
https://www.facebook.com/theredflagproject2022/
https://www.instagram.com/theredflagproject._/
SCHEMA THERAPY FOR LIFE
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Contact us by email- justineandgemma@goodmood.com.au
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In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the concept of disorganized attachment style and challenge the inclination to worry excessively about labels. Join us as we delve into the complexities of disorganized attachment and shed light on why understanding it shouldn’t be a source of distress. We’ll discuss the limitations of categorization and emphasize the importance of focusing on the underlying experiences and emotions that shape our attachment patterns.

87. Are you an Over-compensator?

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